When I stopped her cake eating before I went dark except for the kids and I also began trying to make her jealous at the same time.
She sees jealousy as a threat now.
How did you 'stop her cake eating' before? Did you give her an ultimatum or set your boundary?
It makes sense that if you were criticizing her appearance before, that your immediate interest in other women would backfire. I don't think I would play that card right away again. Also, maybe you don't have to go dark, you just drop having a romantic/sexual relationship with her. You can still be a good and caring friend.
I have been complimenting her on her accomplishments at work and her skills as a mother as well.
Great!
Her OM is a loser but she thinks she may have already lost me. She has said she is afraid that if she comes back I may throw her out in a few months out of spite. She sees that as me having control.
And does she think that if she doesn't give him up that you won't throw her out? Is she counting on that yahoo to be her life raft?
