Looking for Advice

[gutwrenching]

Hi Lost! I always appreciate hearing from you also. I'll look up the Boss cologne. I will buy a couple pieces of clothing, music - good idea. Heck, i've been listening to a lot more country music lately but don't really own any...that one would be 180, I never started really listenting to country at all until this summer and I don't think she has any idea. Haricut - I get one every 2 weeks almost like clockwork.

Boudaries - that is something I need to focus on. To date, my only real boundary thoughts/focus was on (a) no contact with OM and (b) being treated with respect in front of the kids. The respect piece went well after I called her on it. Instant change. I guess at this point, I don't even know what boundaries I need to set.

GAL can be done but not in the traditional means. With a high profile job in small city with long hours and high expectations and a few time zones from friends at home, it is just would not be believable for me to suddenly be out with friends and chatting on the phone coming home late at night. Its hard to explain and I am not willing to divulge where W and I work, so you got to trust me on this one and don't think I'm hiding from something that just isn't comfortable. I need to find other means to GAL, from reading books to a hobby of some sort that I can do or something.

And I got it on the contact - you all saying the same thing. Touch base once a day, try to get her to initiate, if not, I can and I like the TM goodnight as long as it is very basic. She will be expecting more. She will be expecting a handful of TMs especially on Saturday (at least I think she will, since I've already that one under control, maybe not).

And most importantly, I have to stop obsessing over OM and contact. I was going to call tracfone company and get current minutes remaining on phone and then again right before she returns. I have not yet. Not sure if this would really be "evidence", would be easy to lie out of, and it might be better for me to just forget about the fact the EA continues. Thoughts from others on this?