Don't know where to post this.

[loveherstill]

As long as you show how weak you are by allowing your wife to share herself with two men you are doomed.

I GUARANTEE you that she isn't going to come back and dump the OM as long as you allow her to cake eat. How silly of you..


You want to prove to your wife who the better man is?

Then show her how much you respect yourself by SHOWING her that you love yourself enough that not only will you let her go, but that you think it to be for the best because three people in a relationship doesn't work.


The guy that will win her here is the guy thta shows her he doesn't need her.... I would take my chances on being that guy.

I can't recall the last time I saw a reconcilation happen when the BS fought to be the better man. It doesn't work.

Are you sure gucci?

She was ready to dump him twice until I acted as if I did not need her. When I give her the validation she asks for she does not go see him. She still talks to him but she does not go see him. She is questioning her own actions right now but she does not want to come back to a guy who is only a victim. I showed her that I can accept blame for parts of our problems in the above email.

I cut off her cake eating once and she ran away so fast it made my head spin. Those abandonment issues again.

I am only treating her as my wife when she is attentive and loving to me (ie: acting as my wife) when she is not I am with holding affection.

I understand that this may not be the correct approach that is why I ask for help.