Don't know where to post this.

[TrentC]

From OM she gets validation of beauty. He tells her often she is beautiful, hot, sexy and treats her like the only woman in the room. All the stuff I did years ago.

He also is there as a shoulder to cry on without judging her or making her feel guilty.

Sounds like good places to start, then.

That being said her an om have fought some and I think that helps me.

By that measure, all of the fighting you and W have done helps him a lot more.

You don't know why they fought. Maybe she's having second thoughts about leaving and he's pressing her to stay. Maybe they argued about where her stuff will fit in his place. You can't go around comparing their relationship to yours.