As best as I could understand my H (which clearly is not my strong suit!) I think he wanted me to know he was miserable also and I wasn't the only one suffering. That is what I took from what he expressed to me.
The very last straw for me was that BS he pulled with Seattle. It was also then he told me how horrible things are with his GF, how they almost broke up four times, how she is so jealous of me and their R is not all roses but he decided to stick it out. I actually listened to this crap for a while then thought NO WAY, you have got to be KIDDING ME and that was really the last time we spoke.
I can't even think about it as it still makes me very upset. My H who is STILL with his affair calls HIS WIFE to complain about the R with the woman he cheated on HIS WIFE with. I clearly was insane to listen to that for one second.
Well CG, I'm going to chime for a bit and ask you if you want your husband back.
Do you want him back or are you done?
If you do want him back, is it because you want this for your children or do you want him back because you want him?
Either way, as G just mentioned, you are his emotional healing stepping stone, you are the launchpad to his new life, he knows you still care for him so he can use you as a guide, counsellor and sounding board whenever he needs advice and you've noticed he doesn't care too much about how he makes you feel because he is in fact using you.
You can stop that anytime.
And if you do want him back, you take off those LBW's flat shoes and put on a pair of the WAW's stiletto's and start acting like a real WAW.
I think you can pull it off but you have to be willing to try it.
