Don't know where to post this.

[loveherstill]

What I have learned so far is that she has abandonment issues and because of me body image issues.

I think that I need to be here for her when she asks for help with things that are not just monetary.

I need to listen to her and validate her feelings no matter how much venom she spews.

I will show her physical affection when she is receptive to it. I will concentrate on hugs and light touch and only go further if she initiates. I will withhold physical affection when she has gone and seen OM for at least one full day.

She still acts as though she wants to date me, so I will ask her out occasionally but I will let her pick the activity (she just accepted my invitation for this Saturday).

I destroyed her self esteem by making her feel fat and ugly. I will tell her that she is beautiful, call her sexy, compliment her outfit, eyes, smile, etc. when I see her. These compliments will not be sexual unless she moves that way first.

She did enjoy flirting by text and sexting with me. I need to try that again.

I need to remain available to her but not to the point of being at her beck and call. It is ok for her to think that I am busy and at times I need to be.

I was taking dancing lessons and I need to restart them.

When around the children I need to make them the center of my attention so that I can develop a deeper relationship with them. She also notices and smiles when I do this.

I need more help as I am going there tonight and I do not want to mess up a chance to impress her.