ugh. How do I balance enlisting her family as an ally (and keep in mind, we don't talk that often, but they do feel that she is in a fog, "crazy," out of her mind, all words they've used) and not going too far? I thought I was doing a good job, but when my wife called and said that this is an example of how "nasty" I can be... Not that her feedback is what I go by, but I am, while DBing, trying to make sure I'm making positive changes in myself along the way.
