Spouse Suffering From Depression

[awest1217]

I would say you are doing great. Do whatever will help you! I personally think you need to stop the intimate relationship with H because he does need to acknowledge you as his wife. On one hand this might be keeping him from getting physical with someone else, but he should keep himself because he loves you and right now it kind of seems like a boyfriend who tells his girlfriend, "I am going to leave you unless we have sex". Sorry. If you are getting attached and want to set a boundary, you should set the boundary. H might leave and then you know that he was in it for one thing and you can move on. Believe me harder said than done! Maybe give him a pic of you and S to put up at work or next time together see if he will take a pic on his phone. Feel him out, but you really just need to do what is best for you. Not him!