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[awest1217]

Lucky, it has been a relief to not read everything. I think at times I made things worse than they were, but either way it is one less thing for me to worry about. Right now I am happy and content with where I am, except for the parent teacher conferences I have to hold tonight :(, but otherwise things are great. I like where I am and how I have handled this situation. I may not have been perfect, but I could have done a lot more damage and haven't. Lucky you are right that bitterness is just another way of H and OW ruining my life some more. I am using this to make sure I deal with the anger before it becomes bitterness. It is ok to get angry. It is letting it fester and become bitterness that is the problem. I have talked a lot about the forgiveness book I read, and it talked about how bitterness is you putting yourself in a jail, and I don't ever want to do that. I just want to get angry, which I have a right to, then let it go here so that it doesn't become more.

EJohn - one good thing about my sitch is H never has S ever. He never has ever asked to see H alone so I don't have to worry about OW having him. I think this is because H knows he is doing wrong and just won't change so he doesn't want to be a bad influence. (at least I am hoping that is why). Also the FB thing, I have learned that I don't put anything on there about H. I have in the past and I hate when he comments that he likes stuff, like my pictures or my status. If he likes it so much he can talk to me in person, so I recommend to you to not use FB to vent, also not being friends anymore is not a bad thing. I would block H, but I feel it would set up back even more so I am just going to stick with no contact which means no negative contact either.