As best as I could understand my H (which clearly is not my strong suit!) I think he wanted me to know he was miserable also and I wasn't the only one suffering. That is what I took from what he expressed to me.
The very last straw for me was that BS he pulled with Seattle. It was also then he told me how horrible things are with his GF, how they almost broke up four times, how she is so jealous of me and their R is not all roses but he decided to stick it out. I actually listened to this crap for a while then thought NO WAY, you have got to be KIDDING ME and that was really the last time we spoke.
I can't even think about it as it still makes me very upset. My H who is STILL with his affair calls HIS WIFE to complain about the R with the woman he cheated on HIS WIFE with. I clearly was insane to listen to that for one second.
CG in your case... do you realize that you were being used to meet his emotional needs at the time? He wanted and was looking for a sympathetic shoulder to cry on... because OW was not meeting this need.
Who cares who he is bawling to now-a-days... not your problem. His choice, his consequences.
Of course he was using me. At that time I wasn't in the best place so it wasn't all that clear to me then. My H has called me many times for "life issues" since he left. When his dad had surgery, when his mom got sick again, when he had a problem at work and so on. Certainly I wished his dad well in surgery but other than that I stopped listening. We all have life stuff to do deal with and if I was good enough to be his sounding board then I should have been good enough for more. I wasn't so I stopped. Live and learn. It's all you can do.
As best as I could understand my H (which clearly is not my strong suit!) I think he wanted me to know he was miserable also and I wasn't the only one suffering. That is what I took from what he expressed to me.
The very last straw for me was that BS he pulled with Seattle. It was also then he told me how horrible things are with his GF, how they almost broke up four times, how she is so jealous of me and their R is not all roses but he decided to stick it out. I actually listened to this crap for a while then thought NO WAY, you have got to be KIDDING ME and that was really the last time we spoke.
I can't even think about it as it still makes me very upset. My H who is STILL with his affair calls HIS WIFE to complain about the R with the woman he cheated on HIS WIFE with. I clearly was insane to listen to that for one second.
OMG! I can't imagine having to hear about a GF. My H complains finances. I know he does it because he knows I'll help. I need to work harder on that.
