It is very hard when the WAS complains about their life.

My H used to tell me all the time how he was a nomad... living at his grandparents house, then with friends and OW with no home. In fact, several times he cried about it. I have zero sympathy for him but it did hurt to hear him say that. He chose to leave and drift around.

If I had a dollar for every time my H told me how hard this was on him, to have to sneak around with OW and other crap that HE CHOSE I would be a rich woman.

It's a difficult spot to be in.