Hopeless feelings

[motherof3]

H informed D9 last night that the house is going up for sale on Monday.

What have the kids been told up to this point? How have you explained H’s absence?

By the way, he is the one that wants to sale the house, and I have finally agreed.

If H is the one who wants to sell, than H needs to communicate that to the kids.

I have already told him that he will have to carry most of the burden of getting house ready to sale because I’m working full time and going to school full time. And I don’t have any spare time, and the extra time I have I would like to spend with my kids, and not always cleaning the house.

Good boundary. Be ready to enforce it. There is a thread floating around the boards called Boundary (I think). If my be to your benefit to read it.

I’m going to propose that H move back home for the duration of the house being up for sale.

Would you be ready for this? You will need to set specific boundaries with H and allow no cake-eating. You will also need to continue to work on you (180’s and GALing). Just be prepared. Focus on things that you can control. And remember, don’t set any expectations. He may not like your suggestion of moving back home. If he says ‘no’, how would you react? Again be prepared.