Just stopped in to say "hi" and read last couple of pages... I feel for you...
I wish I had the magic word, pill or potion... whatever, and it would make all our problems go away... if I only had enough for one, I would give it to you before anyone else.
Others may be mad at me for saying that, but I just thought of it right now, and you are who I am feelin' for at the moment.
I know you hurt. We all do. It is because you are such a wonderful human being who just loves her family prob. more than she loves herself. Is this true??? I know it is...
Than I noticed your call name "luvless"
You want to hurt not sooooo much, than repeat after me.....
THE MAGIC WORD....
luvless luvless luvless luv less luv less luv less love less love less love less l o v e l e s s l o v e l e s s
And focus more on your self and the other things that contribute to your happiness and then watch what will happen...
l o v e l e s s l o v e l e s s love less love less love les luv les luv le luvle luvl luv and here is where you win.
in between the "l" the leaving
and right before the "v" your ultimate victory
is "u" self explanitory....
Just narrow it down to what really is important, and it will all come together....
Sorry if I am stupid, but I just think there is more to U...
Me 43 / W 40 T 29 / M 15 S-18 11/4/09-ILYBINILWY 11/10/09-Separated 12/1/09-W admitted EA 12/5/09-W admitted PA 12/24/09 W say "I love you"
"A GOOD MARRIAGE IS NOT ONE WHERE PERFECTION REIGNS"
You are a great mother, and also a great wife, and you what, you have the world to offer to those who will accept you... and that which you have to offer...
Frankly, I think your husband is an _______! And if you'd like, I will drive to whereever and kick his ___________! All you have to do is say the word.... no butt seriously, I think H is stupid. I think everyman on this board would appreciate a woman like you and if your H could see the luv we see here (flowing out of your sitch), he would rip out his own heart and stomp it into the ground for what he has done to you...
H does love you... he is just lost in a sh!t storm.... I hope he realizes the wonderful you in you before he screws it up beyond repair....
We all love you luv....
We luv luv!
Me 43 / W 40 T 29 / M 15 S-18 11/4/09-ILYBINILWY 11/10/09-Separated 12/1/09-W admitted EA 12/5/09-W admitted PA 12/24/09 W say "I love you"
"A GOOD MARRIAGE IS NOT ONE WHERE PERFECTION REIGNS"
from my friend smw..not sure what verse "Give your burdens to the Lord, he will take care of you. He will not permit the godly to slip and fall"
Pat, that was a nice post you sent. remember, we are all here for a reason. yes Luv is a wonderful person, beautiful person, and she doesn't deserve the crap treatment, but the fall of a M comes from both people. We all must look deeply within ourselves because we are ALL sinners. We all hurt those we love, because we are imperfect. So although it is wrong for H to do what he is doing, we must still have that empathy (if that's the right word, I get them mixed up) for the WAS because they are also hurting, and us LBSers have done some of that hurt, and that is the reason for change.
This is one of the most humbling experiences I have ever had to face, but when I was able to reflect on the little things I had done, my work went that much faster. We can ALL become better people, and that's what our goal needs to be, and part of that is figuring out what part of the failure of the M we could have been a part of, and the result of this is AMAZING!!! I have lived it!
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
H just text me that he changed his flight to tomorrow - had a feeling he was gonna do that. He is flying into an airport that is much farther away too - one that is closer to where possible ow lives!
I need strength today guys...I'm pissed.
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
Good question. I assume he thinks you'll rearrange your schedule to accommodate this?
What happens if you reply and say "I've got something at that time I can't get out of"?
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
