Looking for Advice

[gutwrenching]

Rocked - as always, great to hear from you my friend. I'm sold, I got three women telling me to go get the cologne. OMG, I won't even know how to being picking some out.

I had thought about the clothes already, partially too because I am tired of wearing the same things...utilizing the always look attractive advice. Hobby or personal interest - nothing I could do in this weather unfortunately and my time is really limited. That's what hit me this morning, I almost wish it was longer. Between dance lessons, swim lessons and ski lessons, I'm going to be running all over the place (like usual) and I have already promised the older daughter that we would have a fantastic weekend (she was very upset about mom leaving) so that is my priority and you know what, I can call that my hobby! I will find a movie to rent to watch myself, something the W would never want to see. I owe myself that much at least.

I am listening and trusting about the contact approach. But as you can understand, boy this one still makes me nervous, just because she would get so upset in the past when I was too busy to make the time to talk to her or e-mail her or whatever. That was really a sticking point in our marriage. So I guess I need to make sure that I respond and give her attention when she does call, but not initiate it. The contact approach will be the hardest thing for me to abide by, I know that, it worries me, finding the balance between gaining some control and not pursuing, and yet showing that its not the same ole, same ole. What do you think Rocked? I know you said you dealt with the same struggles/issues...