That definitely is a battle to fight the bitterness and hatred. I fight it constantly whenever I think about OW. H gives me the same BS about how they are "just friends"(H had the nerve to tell me the other day when I made a comment about OW that I "just don't understand". Really.) The way I have found to combat it is really just some self talk...just reminding myself that the only one that is hurt by this bitterness is me. I'm the one sitting here upset and angry - not H and not OW! And frankly, after all the pain those 2 have put me thru, I'm not going to continue to let them make me miserable. I can either choose to let it eat away at me and be an angry and bitter person or I can choose to let it go and find the good in my life. It's almost like getting angry at getting angry and fighting back! These episodes of anger have gotten fewer and shorter now, but it's still a battle. I guess we each how to find a way that works for us, but it's something to try. It sounds like you are fighting that battle well already, so just keep it up!
And good job on not snooping. When facebook changed their privacy policies recently, I was soooo annoyed that I couldn't snoop on H and OW anymore. But really, it's been kind of a saving grace. Knowing and interpreting what H and OW were up to all the time was just so emotionally draining. Yes, I'm curious, but they are going to do what they are going to do and at this point, knowing was causing me more hurt. If and when it's time to move forward with the R, H will need to come clean and open so I can trust him again, but at this point, it's just causing undue pain. Have you felt that same relief?
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10
