I agree it sucks but there isn't anything I can do about it. I can let it get to me like it did yesterday or I can press forward. I choose to press forward as this is her decision and something she will have to deal with in the future should she regret any of her actions.
M 33 | W 34 | Kids: S4, S3 M: 5/28/05 Bomb: 8/22/09 EA: 8/1/09 | PA 12/26/09 W L: 10/21/09 M L: 11/16/09 | 12/09 to file SA W & Boys Move Out: 3/14/10
No you cant do anything about it. And honestly, I think she is not thinking right now. It's what someone else said :survival mode=money. Keep moving forward. K
I agree as it sounds like most of us do....she's doing it for monetary purposes. You're right when she does is up to her and she has to live wiht her choices and consequences.
Thanks for the support everyone. Nothing really new to report. My W is going out of town for a few days with the boys. It will be nice to have her out of the house but I will miss my sons.
However, it is a good scenario to have because it helps me get used to the fact that I will no longer see my sons every night like I have been used to for the past 4 years.
M 33 | W 34 | Kids: S4, S3 M: 5/28/05 Bomb: 8/22/09 EA: 8/1/09 | PA 12/26/09 W L: 10/21/09 M L: 11/16/09 | 12/09 to file SA W & Boys Move Out: 3/14/10
Kemper, I just read this thread not the "original" yet. It is a small world. Are you on FB? If you go to this post you can find me, I would like to compare notes on lawyers and law here in NC, if you like. http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1915394&page=9 Are you going to keep the kids in the house or is your W going to take them with her when she moves out? Check out post 1913446 dated 1-10-10, to find me there is a trail to follow, you are smart you will find it.
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
No need to read the "original" as it is long and drawn out. The recap helps with how things progressed.
As of now my W is going to take the boys when she moves out. I have to meet with the L on Friday to go over the move out agreement. I am going to want 50% custody even before our separation agreement is final as I am their father and want to be with them as much as I can.
Sent you a request on FB.
M 33 | W 34 | Kids: S4, S3 M: 5/28/05 Bomb: 8/22/09 EA: 8/1/09 | PA 12/26/09 W L: 10/21/09 M L: 11/16/09 | 12/09 to file SA W & Boys Move Out: 3/14/10
There is a DB group and page on FB. I am not a member of either since my W is one of my "friends" on FB and don't want her having any information about the books or this site for that matter.
I thought awhile back about setting up a second account but at the end of the day I decided against it. I don't want to have to keep up with multiple accounts and the people that I would friend on FB are the ones that I would actually like to become friends with or am already friends with. I am not one of those people that accepts all friend requests. If I was/am/or want to be a friend with you then I will accept it otherwise I have no desire to inflate my friend number just because someone thinks we were/are friends.
Do you happen to have a trail similar to missherlove for finding you?
M 33 | W 34 | Kids: S4, S3 M: 5/28/05 Bomb: 8/22/09 EA: 8/1/09 | PA 12/26/09 W L: 10/21/09 M L: 11/16/09 | 12/09 to file SA W & Boys Move Out: 3/14/10
I am on FB and part of the DB group. It is my understanding that the DB group is private and does not show up on your FB page, so no one would know you are a member. At least that's how it was explained to me.