Try to find out what she wants in a man and a R and silently start implementing those changes in yourself as you detach. Listen to her she will tell you. Don't ask. The friends with other W isn't a bad idea either. Think about not being a victim. Don't be controlling or pursue. Stand up for yourself and show her you are and independent masculine man who stands up for what he believes. I found that this worked for me and I noticed changes in my W. They are all the same breed. The A has to be stopped tho.
Me:49 W: 41 Kids=D14/D14/S10 Married: 15 Together: 16 Bomb: 08/26/09 Currently: separated but in the different houses.