I feel the same way you do about being firm but not mean. Realizing that you don't NEED your W to make you happy is a healthy thing, you many WANT your W but you don't NEED her which are two completely different things.

We live in the same county. smile Amazing how small of a world it really is.

M 33 | W 34 | Kids: S4, S3
M: 5/28/05
Bomb: 8/22/09
EA: 8/1/09 | PA 12/26/09
W L: 10/21/09
M L: 11/16/09 | 12/09 to file SA
W & Boys Move Out: 3/14/10