Looking for help with WAW

[thegoodfight]

Alright, bare bones here! Let her lead the dance, drop the control. What I meant by a security blanket is she does is not capable of doing anything without positive reinforcement from a friend or family member! She always wants at least one person in the aduience to back her up! Do you follow that!

I do not know for sure, but if you validate, not agree with, but validate her feelings, in time she may not need the audience anymore! Forget the relationship talk, make yourself as attractive as possible. Work outs, independant, responsible, eat right, and get tons of sleep. When we are tired we are more likely to back peddle! Trust me, been there back peddling is not good!

I do not recommend, claiming to have moved on, unless that is what you want to do! IMO that is game playing and can backfire in a terrrible way! Do not add a notion or thought of infidelity to the mess. Instead spend times with friends and get out and have some fun. Just keep it light and keep the alcohol to a minimum because it will depress you! Train your mind to focus on other things besides your WAW.

Again I have been there, it sucks, it hurts, it is easier said than done and emotions right now are the enemy! Sad but true, the best chance you have of saving the marriage involves you saving yourself first and letting go of the notion, that if you don't save it you failed! Drop that line of thinking, focus on changing what you need to change, protect your finances and credit and let the rest go!