You're inability to leave her alone is an indicator of your extremely high level of co-dependence to the woman which is extremely unhealthy, particularly when you've been separated for what, 5/6 months?
No woman wants to be with a man who needs her so much. It's extremely unattractive and it is the last thing she's going to respond to.
If you want your wife back you have to LET HER GO. That means stop talking to her about anything except business and arrangements for your children.
Stop telling her that you love her (it makes me want to puke just reading it so I can't imagine how she feels).
Try to think about it from her perspective, she doesn't want to be with you, but you can't even respect her enough to leave her alone and accept her current decision. You say that's because you love her. She sees it as more evidence that you don't love her, you only love yourself and are only interested in things that make you happy. By telling her you don't want a divorce, that you love her blah blah blah you are telling her you don't give a damn what makes her happy, you want her to do what you need so you'll be comfortable.
It's not possible to love someone who doesn't respect your decisions. She can't have the space to love you while you are in her face like a mangey camp-dog.
Leave her alone. If you can't find it in yourself to do that, you need to ask yourself why? What is it within you that needs to be rebuilt so you can stand on your own two feet?
AYK we are born alone and we die alone. At some stage throughout our life we need to learn to BE alone.
You can do that. You can, but you have to make it happen, no one is going to do it for you.
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
