I decided to start a new topic about stitch because I felt my old one “my story” was getting to long for others to follow. Sorry for the length.
Stitch: My H and me are separated and have been for almost 6 weeks now. We had started fighting around the first of October. I had a lot of stress in my life at the time because I had just broken my leg, and had to help with everything and was very dependent on others. This time of year is also the start of hunting season, and my H is an avid hunter. He went on his hunting trips, and I felt abounded, even though his mom was here to help me. I felt over the next month or so my H was growing distant from me. Therefore, I started snooping into his emails, texts, ect. I found that he had been chatting a lot with girl he had befriended on FB. There was nothing to suggest an affair in anything I found, just a lot of communication between the two of them. Therefore, I confronted him about it, and he said it was nothing. Nevertheless, he was mad about me checking up on him and not trusting him. That is when the fighting really started to become an everyday thing. Me constantly checking on him, and him being mad for me not trusting him. He kept telling me he wanted to pretend as if everything was ok and wait until after Christmas to work on our R. I wouldn’t let go, and I wanted to fix it. Therefore, we came to a standstill. So on 12/3/09 he moved out and into his parent’s home. I thought it was a mutual agreement, but later found out he felt as if I had kicked him out and he kept telling me that he didn’t think I really loved him anymore. I also found out that he had bottled up an incident 4 years ago, where during an argument I blurted out “I don’t love you anymore and I want a D” This was a short fight and I thought everything was fine after that and I apologized for saying it and explained it was out of anger and that I didn’t mean it. That is why he won’t come back now, and says he’s pretty sure he wants a D. He tells me he can’t come back from the place that I have put him, and that he is heartbroken and of course the ILYBNILWY.
Sense he has been gone, I have been trying to the 180’s and LRT, but I’m mostly failing at these. I know that I am early in my stitch, but already feel like it is a dead end and is heading for a D.
He wants the house up for sale ASAP so that he can afford to get his own place. I fought him on this at first, but as part of my 180 I told him ok I’m willing to sale too. I really don’t want to sale the house, and I hope we can work this out before that happens, but if not I will be ok with the house selling.
I would love tips, advice, or just any help anyone is willing to offer. Also here is a link to my original stitch that has more information about encounters between H & I.
