Moving on with my life!

[S.T. _I Made It!]

SO2, you sound pretty good. I'm glad that your becoming confident and letting go of the fears and anxiety.

on the 1 txt verses his 14... that was smart to text at least once. if it's a question about baby, you text, if it's not, you don't. sounds almost like he's figured it out a bit, but I'm sure he'll keep testing you a while. and the reason you SHOULD text that one time so he knows you are setting a boundary. otherwise he could think there are other reasons your not answering... so he knows your seeing his texts, but choosing not to respond.

Now, I think I realize that OW can be any female in exh's life. Meaning, it wasn't really OW that was special. He didn't really love and care for her either. He didn't choose her over me. Same goes for MGF. Exh has huge issues. If it wasn't that particular OW or MGF or only the Lord knows what other women...it would have been someone else. Its not like he looked at OW when we were together and went "that is the woman of my dreams." Make sense?

I'm so glad you have learned this lesson. and it has helped you let go of a lot of baggage.

also, so glad about the alanon class! keep going, it sounds very helpful.

oh, and good job on how you dealt with him not showing up, and because you did that, it helped him actually SHOW UP. even if it was only 15 minutes, that is good. I think next time, you should say if you don't hear from him by 10:30 you'll assume that he isn't able to come and you'll probably go on with the next things you need to do. I'm sure his no contacting will happen again..I would totally expect it, as it's in his character right now.

your doing great!