I read your new post as well and I am going to be very honest with you. I agree with everything you said and beleive it is the right approach. However, I am not as enthusiast about it as others because I know this is going to be the most difficult thing you have ever done. Once you say those things you are going to need to stick by them; if you do not your W will lose respect for you and you may also lose respect for yourself. I could be full of it here!!
You captured my thoughts exactly, I have to be strong if I truly want a chance but I have lovingly detatched enough that I can do this. I thought about it and I could deal with everyone losing respect for me even my wife, but when my D13 lost respect for me I knew that was it. We talk almost every night and she asked me "Why do you put up with her after she has hurt you so much, she doesn't deserve you Dad". I still don't want to be an enemy but my W has to know it is over, and I am okay with it. And I am okay with it, I know I will have some tough moments but they are few and get farther in between. I did see my W tonight, I was too nice, I let her stay here in the house with S9 and eat dinner with him while D13 and I left and went out to eat. I was nice when I first saw her and when I returned but I kept my physical distance and I did not look her in the face. She said I will see you tomorrow at the C session. I am sure she will not be expecting what I have to say, I don't think I will be there that long really just a few minutes. I am prepared for whatever reaction I will get.
Formerly "missherlove"
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Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
