Trying to move on

[ClingingToHope]

Long talk with sister and my boss, who went through a divorce. I have a very good plan for Sunday.

First, I'm going to ask her to come to the apartment. I don't want to negotiate the end to my marriage in a house I put 12 years of my life into.

Second, when she gets there I'm going to simply ask her what she thinks is fair and then let her draw it out. This will be a major role reversal. I always kind of laid the finances out and presented the options.

Basically, my L told me I'm screwed if this goes to court and I need to see if I can get a better deal from W. She's said she's willing to discuss it because she knows the debt she ran up is going to hurt.

So once she's laid out what she thinks is fair, I'll ask her if I can think it over. And if it's a better deal than I can get in court and what I'm paying now then I'll take it.

I do not want to fight, mope, plead, yell. I want it to be just business so I can get on with rebuilding my life and she can get on with this great life she's been imagining she'll have if she just wasn't married to me.