Is there any reason she would contact OM except that they are having an EA (if not PA)?

The fact that she was in a bad mood Friday "after" talking to OM would mean that something did not go to please her. We could guess all day but never know. All I know is that whenever she's in a good mood (while having an A) means that the A is going to please her. If she's not in a good mood then there is trouble in paradise.

I've been meaning to ask you if you've read the tread on Newcomers, "Boundaries" by Coach. If not, you would be helped by reading it, I think.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!