Today work ran late and when I was supposed to get out early turned to 2:30 pm. My W was getting her hair done and wouldn't be able to pick up the kids. I was keeping her up to date with my progress throughout the day. It turned out that we had to miss our lunch date, but I offered to bring her a sandwich to the hair salon. She was getting highlights and wouldn't be able to pick up the kids. I was able to come to the rescue and get that task done.
Our clothes washer was missing the spin cycle so we had a repair man come in to check it. It was going to be $700 to fix it. I thought it might be just as well to buy a new one. The W/D came with the house. Then she said that WE can take it with us when WE move. I don't know if I read to much into that but..Um...... I liked the sound of it.
R2C, I will get you the list of the books and tell you how they helped. I read quite a few so, I will have to think about it.
Robx, thanks for all your help. I know it made a difference. I know what I need to do now. I have to trust her 100% if I want the R to move forward. She has to trust that I have made changes too. She leaves her cell phone on the counter unlocked all the time.
Hose, I'm glad that I could provide some comic relief for you. It would have made a great scene in a Ben Stiller meet the parents movie.
I believe I caught my W before the A got out of hand. For you, 13 months, trust will be much more difficult. It will take some time. I think you both need total transparency to gradually regain that trust
Me:49 W: 41 Kids=D14/D14/S10 Married: 15 Together: 16 Bomb: 08/26/09 Currently: separated but in the different houses.
