I'm so glad you're here. Your thread (and other posts) have been inspiring to me. Since my first day here, your signature has stayed in my mind and been my own direction: "what's best for my kids is best for me" So many times, when I've had a hard time making a decision, these words have been my guide. Thank you so much.
Originally Posted By: Ready2Change
Keep your focus on every positive, every moment of the day. Start with enjoying your first three breaths of air. Enjoy the days you are still a single household family. Just because you and W are not getting alone, does not mean you can not enjoy her when she interacts with the kids.
Admittedly it's only been a few days since I found out W is filing for D, but I'm really struggling with this. I'm even surprised by the strength of my own reactions to it. Right now, if my W is in the same room with me, I can't look at her, much less speak. Yesterday, I was cooking dinner for the kids, and she came into the kitchen. My entire body actually turned away from her. I literally thought, what am I doing?!?!? I have been thinking about Coach's advice to act as if everything is ok, and I'm fine going on with my life. I'm have NOT been acting that way.
I really do agree with what you said in the quote above, about enjoying the single-family household. But I can't imagine doing it right now, but I want to. I am avoiding any confrontations, and I'm avoiding letting the kids see this. However, I think I've got to get a handle on this soon.
Maybe my strong feelings will diminish? do you have any advice?
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