She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[Awoken]

(((CityGirl)))

Thank you so much for your detailed reply about your own experience with your parents divorce. It gave me a lot to think about.

I've always thought that W and I were a great parenting team, but I see it differently now. My kids HAVE been affected by much of the stuff that has gone on in our home, and I've been in denial about a lot of of it. Don't get me wrong, I'm not beating myself up about this (anymore I hope!. I do need to understand it, and become the best father I can.

Several things you said really resonated with me.

It may take some time but your children will eventually establish a lifelong foundation of respect for the parent who acts like a parent even in the thick of a divorce (that will be you!).

I've certainly got some new challenges as a parent now. Both D17 and S13 are pushing limits, as they deal with our sitch. As STBXW tunes out, both kids know that she is the "yes" person. I know W is dealing with some of the same issues, as the kids are angry with her and she needs/wants their approval.

I'll keep your post in mind as I do what's right, even when the kids don't approve.

(sigh, this was the first time I've used STBXW instead of W)