Looking for Advice

[sandi2]

she mentioned to me that the Pastor from the memorial service had offered to talk/counsel anyone on anything. She said soemthing to the effect of you could go see him. I don't think there was a we in there and I'm not sure what the you could go see him was implying, but now I'm wondering if I should have or still should ask if W is willing to go see him together for MC

It's my opinion that she thinks you need help with whatever problems you are having with the R. Guess she doesn't have any.

BUt I keep thinking about the ice cream cone idea and there very well could be that opportunity tonight, hard to say, but if there is, what a perfect time to create mystery, right before she leaves on a trip. Normally, I would never go do something like that w/o asking her if she wants something. But am I right to assume that I should not ask her, I should just leave. And if she calls to ask me where I left for, and I tell her, do I then ask if she wants something also?

What I would do is to make sure you where she is seeing you. Then you look at your watch and quickly grab your coat and say, "I'm going out for a bit." Then if she starts with the questions, just tell her you'll be back soon. Leave in a hurry and don't tke time to answer. If she calls while you are gone.....don't answer. Better yet, turn off your phone. When you get back, and she starts with the questions, act preoccupied. Tell her you went for ice cream. If that is too confusing, then just drive around for a bit. But you do not "have" to answer your W just b/c she asked you. My gosh, does she quiz you on every move you make?

If it is this big of a problem, then maybe you need to wait. But the whole idea is to make her feel like you have a life without her. You need to appear interesting and if you ask her if she wants anything.....then it kind of spoils it, don't you think? Some may not approve of this, but MWD says to do something to seem mysterious!