My W was diagnosed with bipolar 16 years ago, one year into our marriage. She had a manic episode involving an affair. It was a rough time, and I ultimately decided to work on the relationship with her, as I was optimistic about her treatment. Our agreement was that we would always talk about any changes to her meds. However, I also understood that talking about her bipolar was a big problem, and that I needed to avoid directly talking about it, other than our agreement about the meds.
Over the years I've spent a lot of time reading about BiPolar, and trying to understand my W and how to help her. I know realize that I understood very little, and my "help" has been a major problem in our M.
Your spouse is pushing you away? Sounds familiar! I've held out hope for 17 years that she would finally let me in. You are need to seriously rethink how your communication. Even though it's more about BorderlinePersonalityDisorder, I recommend the book "stop walking on eggshells".
If you tell me more about your sitch, I can likely be more useful.
you might also want to do a search for posts by "countingcrows"
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