Looking for some more help.

[gutwrenching]

I'm here, I'm in your shoes, I've done what you have done, I'm a rookie, but I know the advice cause I have asked the questions...I've got e-mails that make me cringe, I've got a birthday card from W from 8 days before the bomb was dropped with W apoligizing for having to be out of town with some very flirtatious/special means she plans to make it up...guess what, she never did and now we are married on paper only.
hang in there, this all sucks. I'm not having such a good day myself, but I am resisting pursuing/contacting. We can both do this.

Vent and ask questions here, act after digesting advice.