I'm not telling you to stop hoping to save your marriage. I'm telling you that I think to be successful you actually have to stop TRYING to save your marriage with your every breath and thought. You have to learn how to roll with the punches, how to respond (when you need to respond) and how to keep quiet when that is the proper response. You have to learn how to look longterm instead of disecting each and every interaction and tidbit of information as though its the deciding fact.
