Don't have any suggestions. This is tough Lost, and I know it. The GAL is supposed to pick you up and keep your mind off your H.
Maybe you DO want something. Take a time-out from mind-reading and wondering what your H is up to and spend it on exploring what it is that you want.
((( Lost ))) I've not been as helpful with you as I have with the others... I apologize for that.
Another suggestion I can give you is to try let go of the resentment. I saw a bit of it in you earlier. This leads to hate and to vengeful thoughts. These are a complete waste of energy. Your energy right now must be focused on yourself and the kids.
I don't remember if I asked you before... List out 3 things you're going to do for yourself to make you happy every day. And provide feedback on what you DID do the day before.
If I did... then WHY ARE THEY NOT HERE? There is a reason for that list.
1. eat SOMETHING, anything, i enjoy for breakfeast ( everyday...) 2. visit the book store, grocery store and hair salon 3. relax some in the evening...book, movie, sleep...
today i did...
1. fresh coffee on the way to work 2. attended 1st c session for daughter...in turn got a bit off of my chest also... 3. going to watch Watchmen tonight. if i can stay awake long enough! if not ill finish it tomorrow night...
it was an exhausting day. h did show up for c so i was relieved a bit. he even spoke some. i spoke quite a bit and feel better.
as for the 1st impression for the girls...all i can say is WOW!
hope everyone is good. ill catch up tomorrow when i post my completed list
me 39 h 38 kids 9 and 6 h left 8/9/09 loving and devoted wife and mother still going...10 months later...
ok...didnt think of it that way. after getting myself and the kiddos ready in the am i never have 5 min to eat... how about...
You should be doing that already... Think of it like this... if you don't look after yourself and keep yourself in the best health, who is going to look after the kids if you collapse of something happens to you?
[quote=lost1234]1. putting on a little makeup...never put on a whole face of it, but maybe some eye makeup and a little blush would make me look and feel more alive! Excellent! Yes! Now THAT'S what I'm talking about.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
not only did i eat a banana for breakfast...i also put a little makeup on and got a coffee on the way into work!
after work went to dinner with h and girls...haircuts to follow...well the flood gates have opened(atleast for a few hrs he he he) not only did i get a brand new haircut...about 11 inches OFF...just shy to make it for locks of love... got a new color, eyebrows done and a really GOOD flat iron! i was gonna pay, h offered so i said thank you, much needed...and appreciated!
hey why argue the total bill was over $200...
I FEEL SO MUCH BETTER!!! WHAT AN EGO BOOST!!!!!!!a much needed one! shhhh...
im keeping the same list for tomorrow...minus hair salon...definately grocery store with the new doo!
me 39 h 38 kids 9 and 6 h left 8/9/09 loving and devoted wife and mother still going...10 months later...
having computer issues, will tell that i have...everyday...
1. made myself "pretty" with the new do and a little makeup 2. treated myself to coffee on the way to work 3. have finished all grocery shopping, and left h with girls and went and visited 2 friends
h has been a real !@#$%^&...staying away and doing my own thing!
thank you all for the support and advice! keep it coming! he still has a way to push my buttons and upset me...
the latest is this...
he cant stand to: be in the house with me, in the car, do anything...turns into an arguement...
what the heck do i do but walk away? could bop him a good one...
he starts all this and then is more aggrivated when i walk out?? isnt that what he has done all along? he doesnt even make sense and the arguments are over stuff like what kind of boots the girls are wearing???
wtf???
me 39 h 38 kids 9 and 6 h left 8/9/09 loving and devoted wife and mother still going...10 months later...
