Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Sandi, once again I must say that you are right. Another 2x4 for me but I needed it. Yes, I have spoken with a lawyer. I am protecting myself just in case, although hopefully it doesn't come to that. I have taken the rest of the money from our joint account and moved it to my account.

You are so correct that I should not send that email. As a matter of fact, after I thought about it more today I had already decided not to send it. I definitely need to think about things before I rush to make any decisions. I'm glad I did not send that email. My plan is to remain NC other than when we need to discuss the bills. Thanks again Sandi for keeping me straight and talking some sense into me. God knows I'm trying to stay on the DB path and not make any more mistakes.

I contacted another MC today and explained that my W wants to meet in counseling for closure to M. I liked this MC a lot. She is very pro marriage. She told me she deals with lots of married couples who are separated and one spouse doesn't want to save the M. She said that time and time again she has couples that say they only want to meet once for closure and they wind up coming back and many times do try to work on the marriage. She sounds very confident about her counseling. She knows about DB and sounds like she uses some of the methods. I wasn't asking her for any false hope about what works and what doesn't. She simply gave me this information, which I was at least happy to hear that she shares the same goals as I do for M. Whether or not she can help my M will remain to be seen but so far I like her style.

I asked her if she thought it was a good idea to bring W in now or wait. She said as long as W is willing to come to a counseling session she thought it would be good to do so now. Even though my W's reasons are for closure, this counselor believed she could begin to open the lines of communication and hopefully get my W to return for more sessions. I know I've asked this before but with this new counselor, would it make sense to bring my W to counseling now or continue to wait?

Once again I appreciate all advice from my friends on this board. You're advice and comments have been invaluable to me.