you cannot let ANY of this matter to you. He's NOT getting the baby. He can threaten all he wants, he can stomp his feet, he can say the sky is a green egg and that the sun is purple. It does not matter. (well sure, Maybe next time you think well of him, you can remember moments like these and remind yourself what a bad piece of news he is in your life) but to WORRY about him? No, this data isn't real.
So except for the clarifying part--i.e, seeing more clearly what a loser he is, forget this. Don't sweat it, and you might ask your friend not to repeat stuff like this to you unless they really think it helps you in some way. I assume she was trying to warn you so maybe there's value in that. Otherwise, shrug it off.
It is literally the ONLY way he can get a reaction out of you and he knows how to push your buttons and he loves doing that. He's a sick man S2...he really is. The idea that you are moving on and NOT reacting to him bugs him to no end. So don't react to this. Laugh it off. Seriously. What are his grounds for getting baby when he can't have unsupervised visits? Remember reality...because he doesn't.
Keep moving on and GAL and if you can possibly do it, move away. Start somewhere new even if it's only 15 min away. This just makes it weirder and harder for you to move on. You are on the right track. Stay on it and stay on message. Calmly. Otherwise you're letting the equivalent of a homeless drunk sputtering angrily at you, to get inside your skin. You would not do that -- so don't let your X h get under your skin. His "data" is as valuable to you as the homeless nut's words are to you.Meaning, it is NOT worth anything. Keep on keeping on...
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
