BBJ, I know what you are going through. I suspect quite a few have gone down this path. BBJ, a few years ago if I read your story, in all honesty, I would have thought your were crazy. Actually anybody who would want to reconcile with a cheating spouse in my mind was "not all there". Well guess what, I guess I was not all there and a whole bunch of other folks on here. I can't explain it....why we hang on and hang on in spite of all the hurt. But we do...and you are not alone. However, there has to come a time that we say enough is enough.
The reasons I suggested that book is because I have been reading you long enough to know that you are struggling with this. I am glad you are going the C route. I hope they can help somehow.