For most people divorce is nothing short of an utter tragedy. It hands down was the worst time of my life. Watching my father die was terrible but it is the progression of life when somebody is so ill. Learning of my disease was frightening but it was the card I was dealt and sometimes that just happens with a disease. For some reason it is easier to reach acceptance for certain "tragic events" or at least it was for me. Logically I knew my father could not live on life support forever. It didn't make it LESS tragic but it was tragic in a different way.
But divorce is something different. I am not sure I can articulate why in a sensible or eloquent fashion. I would like to try and see if I can be of assistance to somebody that way I was assisted on something I simply did not want. Maybe I will be able to handle it, maybe not but I do know I would like to try.
CG,
My father passed away at a pretty early age in 2003 suddenly. And I know EXACTLY what you mean. My father's death was unpleasant, but it pales in comparison to what I (and everyone else here) am going through now. I would rather live his death every day for the rest of my life with my old W by my side than go through this D.
Maybe it's that we all know death is inevitable. But a D does not HAVE to happen. That, and with death, there are no feelings of trust/love that are betrayed. My father (and yours) didn't choose to leave us. Our spouses, right or wrong, CHOOSE to leave us and break up a family.
I think, for me, that's what makes death easier to take than a D.
