Some of my friends are telling me I should have some female 'friends' like W has been doing, especially now that W doesn't wear her ring anymore.

I told them that I used 'open relationship' to describe what W is doing, and acknowledged it and accepting it in order to let go of her so I can move on even though she doesn't agree that is what she has been doing in reality. Yes, it would give me the option to do the same.

For now my M vows trump all that - I won't stoop to that level and I will honor M for my children's sake as well. I always ask, "what would my kids expect in this case if they could understand what is going on?"

However, she doesn't neccessarily know all that and I can see that it doesn't hurt if W knows I am open to a few new friendships with people of the opposite sex now, even if I personally know I am still M and wouldn't cross a line.

It is interesting that people close to the situation are starting to offer the gucci/robx dating advice I thought.

ME/XW:47
S21, D19, S15, S14
M:21 T:26
W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12
W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline