Now the "funny" thing is, I have repeatedly said we need to go to a counselor together, not because there's even the remotest chance for our M, but because from my POV it is essential that we clear out whatever resentment, anger, unfinished business there exists between us in order to insulate the parenting from them.
Her reply has repeatedly been to suggest that this is a preposterous idea, and that I must be nuts for even suggesting it (again, sorry @nutfarmer).
Maaannnn, how I hate being right.
Yes you are nuts, at this point, I don't know how you would want to spend time in a room with her talking to a counsellor about getting rid of anger, hostility & resentment and from her point of view based on your posts, she pretty much detests you, she doesn't want to spend anytime with you, regardless if there's a counsellor present or not. In fact I'll go so far as to say that she really is angry at you, maybe teaching you a "lesson" for your disobedience and spending time and dating another woman, etc. Now she wants to make your life hard, LOL, where has she been, she's been doing a good job for a year already if I'm not mistaken LOL!
You can stop allowing that at any time.
Screw the counselling, limit the conversations and the emails, not for DB efforts, just for your own peace of mind.
