Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
I'm getting a bad feeling about my situation. My wife hasn't moved back in yet and have a feeling she's changed her mind. I don't know if I can go through another rejection. Many times I ask God for a sign of something good to come in my life. I did yesterday, and W stopped in and we talked and laughed for an hour.
My wife hasn't moved back in yet and have a feeling she's changed her mind. I don't know if I can go through another rejection.
Why do you think she is changing her mind? Has she actually said or done anything to give you that impression?
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Just little things she says lately. Just one example, her dad passed away and he collected knives. She said she'll have to show me this certain knife sometime. If she moves back home I'd see it. There is a couple other examples to indicate she would still be away.Maybe I'm reading into it too much.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
My wife and I had a long talk. Straightened up alot of things that was taken wrong on both sides. My wife has a business here that she hasn't worked in since Christmas. She said she needs to move back in to get her business, which she built up, back. Needing the self esteem and not have to rely on anyone to support her is important and needs that before she can work on a relationship.Our conversation relieved alot of tension on both sides.
I need a little help. Since my last post I've had some nice friendly talks with W. She still hasn't told me when she's coming back.
I think I made a mistake when she told me she was coming back I used the Love Langauge books advice on what I did wrong and spoke of things I did wrong. Too quick! I think I pushed her back some.
I told her before ,that we get along really well and that friendship is a good base to start. W says yes we do get along but downplays this. So now I thought I'm pushing too much and decided to basically LRT. Thoughts please. I just need a little encouragement, the waiting is so hard. She has come a ways and I am trying to be happy with "babysteps"
My wife says she's shooting for friday to move back in. Can amyone tell me what I should and maybe shouldn't expect. It's not like she threw her arms around me and said this was all a mistake. Just not sure how to handle it. I know things I've done wrong in our M but can't throw too much at her. I know she's not ready for all that.
I'm dissapointed, I thought we were all on here to try and get our spouse back, now I have a chance and can't get advice. I figure this is my most critical time for my M.
