Oh, that is not a good way of thinking when it comes to raising the kids - it can actually harm their development. Kids will test and push you to find the limits, the boundaries that they need. By asserting those boundaries, you are proving to them that you CARE and love them enough to make the hard decisions. You can't try to be their friend or worry if they "like" you - they need you to LOVE them. There are lots of good books on this....
