maybe an approach like that would work with your older kids
I struggle still with how to deal with all of my kids. It is a little easier with the younger two, but I still have difficulties. I still sometimes feel like I have to do what they want in order for them to love me. I felt that way in my marriage, and I guess I haven't totally freed myself from that thinking yet. It was when I started doing things that he disagreed with that the marriage really fell apart. So I stood up for myself and made decisions and X left me, and now I fear a replay. Ugh, X really messed up my head!!!
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
