One good way is to friend Michele Weiner-Davis; most of us are friends as well, and some of our psueodnyms should be easy to recognize...

Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."