Looking for Advice

[gutwrenching]

Any time something is suppose to be her responsibility--and you do it her, then it rescues her from her problems

I never thought of it that way. Wow. Guess you are right.
Sandi - two questions for you:
1) thoughts on cell phone
2) what about the upcoming trip and contacting her or not. I previously wrote one the straws that broke the camel's back was the fact when we were apart this summer, I didn't make enough of an effort to contact. So do I contact some or do I wait for her to initiate and then keep it going, or do I try to minimize or...

On the cell phone issue, I am really stumped. I would really like to see if we get anywhere once this whole suicide mess is behind us and we start working out together as planned and going to church together as planned and as I hopefully detach more and more.

lastly - this morning I did not cover her responsibilities. She was mad because she had too much too do and too little time. Gee, maybe that is because she went to bed at 0230 last night...the only thing I did for which is what I do every single morning is pour coffee in her travel mug at the same time I pour mine. But she was running around, running late, and not happy about it.

The hugs goodbye and at night have completely ceased again. And I am not initiating or even hinting at them...waiting for her to come to me.