Hey BBJ, I am a little cofused...did Dan actually have an affair with this woman or is all this fabricated in your mind? How many affairs did he have that you know of? Is this like a Tiger thing? Just curious because I never really paid attention to Dan's indiscretions....I am more focused on reading about you.
Just the facts, as I know them:
Feb 2000: One night stand with stripper in Tokyo (Dan took her back to his hotel), he told me about it the day he got back from his trip or I would never have known...
September-November 2002: Our son was born in August, I found out in October that Dan was having an affair. I told him I was leaving town one night after a week of arguments over my suspicions. I didn't leave town, parked outside a bar I knew he went to (with baby nathan in the car seat)and saw him get out of a minivan and into his car at 2:00 a.m., then drive off following the van. He didn't come home that night. The next day I told him what I saw and he confessed. The woman was a 39 yr old single mom of two he had met at a bar and been seeing for a couple weeks. (Found her # his phone and gave it to my attorney sister. She looked it up and found the womans address, age, and legal records!)
The affair lasted until Thanksgiving, with him saying it was over a couple times and me busting him, her calling our house, etc etc. Then I gave an ultimatum that I would move back home to Iowa from Kansas and take our son with me. I got full transparency, his cell phone, he called me from work or wherever he was to check in, told me if she contacted him, etc etc.
May 2007-September 2009(?): He had an affair with a 20-something girl from his office who has a boy a year younger than Nathan. You all know that story...
Other than that no other physical affairs that I know of, although I know he has frequented the strippers and viewed a lot of porn via videos and magazines, and while in college and the first year of our marriage used the phone sex lines. Some would say those things are just old boys' behavior, but not to me esp when combined with PAs.
SO, yes he had an affair with this woman, but she did not have a 19 year old daughter! Her kids were younger, like 8-12ish...
