I dont want to answer for tgf, but everything you do for W is part of the security blanket, your gestures, attention, accomodations, presence, texting, calls, emails, etc.
Our W's are the same- you described her as calm, confident and emotionless- spot on. My sitch involves an EA/PA- haven't caught up on yours completely.
What's helped me is validation, NO R TALK, NO PURSUING, GAL- I've slipped up plenty of times, but these things have brought the stress down, and i'm not so emotional and acting crazy.
