I do not have the whole sitch, but I read through this thread! A couple of suggestions, may be redundent, but none the less! If she wants a seperation, give it to her! If you have already told her you are not wanting this, you have made your point! She needs a constant security blanket, until that stops, you will make no progress.
So how do you get rid of the Security blankets, hmmm how about not trying to change her mind! Let her make the decisions, yes you have to deal with the money and not lose your shirt in the process! But I would recommend stopping the rest. Personally if I were you I would wait on the counseling, as it will probably hurt to hear what she has to say!
Easier said then done, but start on you, continue excersise, relationship books, IC, Pastor, etc! Pray, focus on you and being whole again on your own! Let her go, give it to God! You can change you, she can change herself, you can not change her mind! She must do that! It sucks, it hurts, you will get through it, it may turn out the way you want it too right now. In a few months you may see it will turn it out the way that is best for you!
Facebook is great tool to get in touch with friends, she needs them right now! It is also a great way to start online relationships, yes you don't want to hear it! Stay away from it and any other temptations that can swing your mood! Right now pride, jealousy, envy, anger, and sadness will try and take a foothold in your life! Do not let them! Deal with it, work through it, and keep your focus on becoming the person you want to be! The rest will work out the best it can given the situation! You have my prayers!
Married:10 years D final 8/28/08 10 minutes is all it took Life goes on and DB was no small part in growing from the Divorce!
