My W is clinically deppressed. I can't exactly relate to the bi-polar disorder, but there would likely need to be a different approach when SP is manic vs. down.
Is your spouse seening a Dr.? Are his meds in order? Does he take his meds? Does he abuse alcohol or drugs?
These are some important factors, as alchohol and narcotics may negate the effect of his prescribed meds.
Read through these forums they will give you info and insight on what you can do for yourself. If you haven't read the books, that is a great place to start as well.
It's important that you don't push your spouse away by throwing these things in his face, or insisting he seek help, etc. Also, find where most probs tend to happen (arguments and such). When they occur see your part in things and just try to do things differently, don't engage him, or allow yourself to be trapped.
I'm very much a newcomer so I would rec you see what some other members say as well.
