They have partitioned off their life into segments so that one part need have nothing to do with the other. You have been put into your own little section, and that section has nothing to do with her other sections.
In this way they can do what they choose to do apart from you, then turn around and speak to you nice and pleasant as though they've done nothing wrong. In their mind, they HAVE done nothing wrong.
You get the backlash when you are so bold as to say or do something that causes YOUR section of their life to intrude on other sections of their life.
That is not allowed. And it will provoke anger and vitriol.
Bradley, this "change" that has come over your wife is very much like the change that came over my ex. Never in a million years would I have believed my ex to be capable of doing and saying the things she did after her change.
Her absolute mental and emotional chaos is exactly why you will best handle this by getting extremely comfortable and secure in who you are, who you want to be, and what it is you want and are willing to accept in your life. That strong foundation in you will help you to be able to weather the storms that will come from your wife.
The best thing my therapist ever told me wheile I was going through this mess was, "Why does every conversation or interaction with your wife have to be either a positive or negative contribution to the chances of you getting back together?"
Most stuff just simply is. Accept the good with a grain of salt, avoid the bad like the plague.
That is certainly a prescription that leads to better health.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
