I have very little experience DBing myself but in reading many threads it is all about becoming a better you. Do the DBing for you and your S5. I understand about wanting the M to survive, but to really detach you have to "drop the rope". Act as if.
You are doing things right:
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But I'm making smaller space making steps, like not calling, not inviting him places
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A few times, H again lost his cool, let's say. I did not take it personally, I stayed calm, and noticed he calmed right down after me every time.
But could work on some others.
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I guess at this point my only thought is to reiterate to him that I have no "agenda" and that nobody knows where this is going, not even me.
You can only show him that you don't have an agenda. Remember if he were DBing you that he will believe nothing of what you say and only 50% of what he sees. Does it work from his side too?
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My only hope is that he is open to discovering he is wrong - that he "doesn't remember things correctly" as he put it. So here's my chance friends - how do I convince him he is wrong?
Show him through your actions. Become the person that you want to be.
just my 2 cents.
Will
"The first step in the acquisition of wisdom is silence, the second listening, the third memory, the fourth practice, the fifth teaching others." Solomon Ibn Gabriol
